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Apr. 5th, 2007 10:46 pmMy dance teacher has made a fatal flaw. He has let everyone in the class know a weakness of his which we can now exploit. That weakness is (drumroll) chocolate chip oatmeal cookies.
He also misspoke when he was trying to say "fall-away slip-pivot" said "fall-away slip-flip," which is amusing to try to imagine. I can even imagine someone accidentally causing such a thing via a superfluous hip movement. It does require a bit of cartoon physics, but still.
Site of the Day - Yahoo Finance's Our Better Halves Are Sometimes Our Worst Side by Jared Sandberg about the quality of career advice that spouses may give. "Delivered with the best of intentions and honey-sweetie coddling, their advice reinforces loony behavior that a reality smack could have prevented." I needed pretty much the entire article worth of anecdotes to get the point being made because it seemed so odd.
The article reminded me of the stereotype that when a friend is having troubles, women want to lend an ear or a shoulder for crying on and men want to give advice. If this is the sort of advice that stereotypical men are giving, then the whole stereotype is messed up because this isn't really advice. It's just commiserating, using words that could be misinterpreted as advice.
Then I started thinking about other kinds of bad advice I've heard about, like telling people whose pregnancies have ended too soon that they can just make another baby. Perhaps a lot of things that come off as bad advice really aren't advice at all, but just an attempt to say that we care and that we are on the side of our friend and want our friend to be happy.
That's too bad. I always thought that having some stereotypical men around in times of trouble could come in handy because of the automatic advice-spewing reaction.
I wonder if you can increase the odds by asking for advice, as opposed to just venting, you might get better advice. I've seen plenty of sound advice given on online journals for example. Of course there, you have more social mechanisms in play. Once one person gives advice, other people start thinking of advice and sharing that.
I'm blathering again. Too tired to tighten this up. Goodnight!
He also misspoke when he was trying to say "fall-away slip-pivot" said "fall-away slip-flip," which is amusing to try to imagine. I can even imagine someone accidentally causing such a thing via a superfluous hip movement. It does require a bit of cartoon physics, but still.
Site of the Day - Yahoo Finance's Our Better Halves Are Sometimes Our Worst Side by Jared Sandberg about the quality of career advice that spouses may give. "Delivered with the best of intentions and honey-sweetie coddling, their advice reinforces loony behavior that a reality smack could have prevented." I needed pretty much the entire article worth of anecdotes to get the point being made because it seemed so odd.
The article reminded me of the stereotype that when a friend is having troubles, women want to lend an ear or a shoulder for crying on and men want to give advice. If this is the sort of advice that stereotypical men are giving, then the whole stereotype is messed up because this isn't really advice. It's just commiserating, using words that could be misinterpreted as advice.
Then I started thinking about other kinds of bad advice I've heard about, like telling people whose pregnancies have ended too soon that they can just make another baby. Perhaps a lot of things that come off as bad advice really aren't advice at all, but just an attempt to say that we care and that we are on the side of our friend and want our friend to be happy.
That's too bad. I always thought that having some stereotypical men around in times of trouble could come in handy because of the automatic advice-spewing reaction.
I wonder if you can increase the odds by asking for advice, as opposed to just venting, you might get better advice. I've seen plenty of sound advice given on online journals for example. Of course there, you have more social mechanisms in play. Once one person gives advice, other people start thinking of advice and sharing that.
I'm blathering again. Too tired to tighten this up. Goodnight!